The world is longing for men who can slay dragons, conquer kingdoms, and get the girl. I know it's not a popular statement to say that we are longing for such a thing, but we are. We want leadership. We want men to take control and do the jobs that no one else will do so that our lives will run smoothly. We are experiencing what happens when men do nothing. When men are not activated.
Children run a muck as well as the household.
Women feel isolated and helpless.
I know that the society at large will make you believe that the family does not really need a man to be the leader and in charge of things, but they are just flat wrong and the evidence in the world today proves that I'm right on this.
Look at these stats of dads who are not in the home, who are not in control of their families.
“A godly Christian husband must be a man, not a boy. There are many husbands who are simply boys who shave and have a job. True masculinity entails the taking of responsibility, as well as physical maturity. Part of the reason many husbands do not have this maturity is because we live in an era that is deeply hostile to the idea of biblical masculinity, even among Christians. If I tell people to “man up” or use the word "manly," the first thing that will pop into your head is some guy pounding on his chest like Tarzan. It is extremely easy to make fun of masculinity in times of peace and prosperity. However, when there is a hot war at the city gates, manliness is something that is prized and recognized as necessary for survival.”
- Douglas Wilson
OK so can be done to take back control?
A few ways you can lead your wife and children spiritually. Ways you can take control in your household. 1. Wake up early! Spend time in God's word. This means reading it. Start with Psalms and Proverbs. Actually do this. SET YOUR ALARM AND GET UP AND GO SPEND TIME IN THE MANUAL. (side note - read more in general. Get good books on theology, family, and culture that grow you as a man).
2. STOP LOOKING AT PORN! PORN is one of the biggest destroyers of humanity and unless we repent of this it will overcome and eradicate us. There MUST be a desire to LOVE JESUS more than your sinful desires. 3. Help motivate the family to get up for the day in a fun and gospel centered way. Play music that energizes. Be a husband and father that brings JOY in tour house. 4. GO to church (together).
a. SING LOUDLY (*yes even if you're off key). You're singing to an audience of ONE and your family is watching you lead.
b. Open your Bible and your notebook and take notes. (BE ENGAGED!)
c. On the drive home ask your family what they got out of the music and the sermon. 5. Regularly gather around a table, pray, laugh, and feast with your family . 6. Have a regular time of family prayer, bible reading, and hymn singing. 7. Take your wife out on dates. Just the two of you and talk about stuff that shows you care.
8. WORK HARD! Do what is needed so that your family is safe and secure. Show your sons that men work hard to take care of the family and show your daughters that they need to look for a man who is willing to work hard to provide and protect them and the children.
These are just few things we can do to take back control.
I'm praying this helps you!
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